I used to care too much about what people think of me.
Today, I don’t give a damn…and I’m 10x happier because of that.
I’m not the most confident person in the room. However, I have enough courage to do anything I want, without seeking anyone’s approval. I can handle critiques. I can say ‘’no’’.
And more importantly, I feel good in my own skin when I talk to somebody else and tell my opinion.
I don’t need to make others like me. I’m fine if they don’t.
Do you want to know what I did? Well, nothing too special. I just changed my mindset. And I’ll show you exactly how to do the same.
Worrying about what people think of you is a waste of time:
The #1 regret of dying is…
“I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”
I don’t know about you but I realized life is too short to care about others.
How many things did society tell you to do? ‘’Go to college, get a job, get married’’ blah, blah, blah.
Technically, there’s nothing wrong with these ideas. But think about how many people have a college they don’t need and a lot of debt they can’t pay? They care what others think.
How many people work in a 9 to 5 job they hate but never quit that job and start a business? They care what others think.
How many people have relationships they don’t want with people they don’t love? They care what others think.
You get the idea.
The more you care about others, the harder your life will be. Even when it comes down to a normal day.
Let’s say you’re at a networking event. And you want to introduce yourself to the main speaker. If he’s already talking to other people you can’t just go over there and interrupt, right? You’ll be rude. So, you decide to do nothing. Then, you go home and regret you lost a great opportunity.
How many times have you gone through similar situations? I can’t even count them.
Besides that, you did many times things you didn’t really want to do. Why? For no other reason, except to please people. Tell me how much time you wasted during your life because you couldn’t say ‘’no’’.
Enough it’s enough!
Imagine if you’d stop doing that. Imagine living a life where you don’t apologize when it’s not the case. Imagine spending time for yourself, without feeling guilty about it.
I’ll help you do that.
Why you care so much about what others think:
You have your own story in your head. That story is based on your past and beliefs. And it’s all about the way you see yourself.
You live according to your story and you want other people to believe your story as well.
- If you believe ‘’I have a great fashion sense’’ you want others to compliment your outfits
- If you believe ‘’I’m not selfish’’ you want others to notice your good deeds
- If you believe ‘’I’m a funny person’’ you want others to laugh at your jokes
We all tell ourselves different stories. And the most common is: ‘’I’m a nice person’’. Sounds familiar? Ok, now you know the root of your problem.
I suggest internalizing the following mindset…
Nobody cares about you:
You don’t need to trick your mindset to believe this. It’s a reality you live every day.
You just need to see it.
People could care less about you. You worry too much for no reason. They don’t give a damn about your results. They don’t care about your mistakes and failures. They don’t care about what you’re doing with your life.
In other words, people don’t give a damn about you. They care about themselves.
Let’s say you go to a restaurant. And you see someone stumble and fall down. Let’s say he even does that in a funny way.
You might laugh. But do you really care about that?
No, the incident won’t be in your head for too much. That person will feel bad but the truth is no one in the room will think about him in a month or two. In fact, most people will forget about him in one day.
Almost everyone worries about what others think of them. That means people are too busy to think about you.
Nobody in this world cares about you so much.
Haters don’t hate you. They hate themselves.
Your customers don’t pay you for how great you are and how much they like your business. They pay you only if they want or need what you sell.
You might say your family and friends care about you more and they want you to be successful. Well, it might be true but remember their expectations are based on what they want, not what you want.
It’s a selfish world out there. And you have no reason to impress others anyway.
Think about it.
If someone says something bad or good about you, is this going to change your life? No. You’re the one who decides what to do with that opinion. You don’t need to give everyone attention.
You can feel embarrassed, guilty, or ashamed based on other people’s perceptions – but don’t forget their perceptions can be WRONG.
You’ll never be liked by everybody. Some people will love you. Some people will hate you. And you can’t do anything about it.
Are you okay with that?
Here’s what you should do next:
Live with the idea ‘’nobody cares about me’’ for one week.
And do everything you want. You’ll challenge your story and you’ll realize it doesn’t need to be true.
You are constantly stressed instead of being happy because you worry too much about what other people(even complete strangers) think of you.
Maybe it’s the time to change that.